This issue came up a few times this summer so I'm sharing my lecture. I could be way off but these are MY thoughts. If you agree and know someone who needs to hear it, pass it along.
*this is NOT marriage advice... b/c I know less than nothing about that
**Before making a quick rash decision try talking it out first and ACTIVELY LISTEN to each other.
Girls, I don't know much about you, lol. I do however, know a LOT about men. If you want to leave but are afraid of hurting him, just leave. You're ABSOLUTELY NOT doing a man a favor by staying when you KNOW you're done. You're making it worse. You're giving him even more time to plan for the future. If you cherish a person, don't waste their time or you might create a stalker. Look at the big picture. It hurts, but leaving is a kindness to yourself and them. Most ppl don't want a one-sided relationship. When its time, its time. So it's ok to leave with no regrets.
If you really "care for... respect... appreciate" (all the words we use to avoid saying "love") someone, pick up the phone and say what you have to say. If those words are true, they've earned that. No emails or facebook messages, period. State your case.
Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg's "Relationship Status". If you break up and don't want ppl in ur business, leave your status as "In a relationship" for a least a month after the fact so you can cool down before the world starts asking questions.
Before you were born, you were given a purpose. Even if your only purpose is to raise a child that grows up be the presidents advisor... A person walking away from you just means they're NOT a part of that purpose. Don't waste another second stressing over someone that isn't thinking about you. Your life will go on and there's happiness to be found. Forgive the people that hurt you and it's easier to live your life.
Cry. Breathe. Pray. Meditate... Love again... in that order ;-)
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